Sunday, October 9, 2011

Far from "typical"

Wyatt and I were having a conversation tonight and he was telling me about how kids at school ask him questions about Rye sometimes.  I asked him what they ask and he said, "You know like why is he so interesting and how old is he?"  He says he responds "well he has autism and he is eight!"

As a parent of a child on the spectrum it is easy to worry about your child who has autism, it is natural, ever present.  What they failed to tell you when they handed out the "'your child has autism " information was how much it was going to affect your other child, your "typically developing" child.  Having a sibling with autism is far from "typical".

Wyatt has many roles.  Son, brother,  interpreter, constant companion, and most importantly the "hawk".  Not much gets by him.  I love hearing him tell Rye how he should not do something because "he will get in trouble with mom" or "it's not safe".  When we don't know what the heck Rye is talking/scripting about, Wyatt is quick to jump in to inform us what movie it is from.  I'm glad they are friends, I'm glad they love each other, my biggest worry ever is that if this changes no one will be around to look after Rye when we are gone.  My second biggest concern is that I don't want Wyatt to be resentful in anyway about the situation because he thinks he was not given the time and attention he needed because his brother needed it more.   I have to try everyday to make sure that Wyatt knows how much I love him and that he is far from "typical" but in a really extraordinary way.  

I think it is essential to be open and honest with siblings from a young age.  Find a sibling group, educate them about autism.  Here are a few links to check out for more information:

http://www.autism-society.org/living-with-autism/family-issues/siblings.html

http://www.autismsupportnetwork.com/news/siblings-perspectives-some-guidelines-parents-332881




2 comments:

  1. I love that you're blogging! You're a little behind schedule, keep it up!! It helps to keep a list of topics as you think of them (I should really take my own advice).

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  2. Yeah I keep a list it has 22 topics on it! Some day I will find the time!

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