Monday, May 7, 2012

A letter from Mom...May 8, 2012

 Dear Rye,

Happy 9th Birthday.   I can't believe that you are growing up so fast.  Mommy and Daddy love you so much.  I can't believe it has been nine years since my life changed forever.  I remember it like it was yesterday.  Your delivery wasn't easy but the minute the doctor put you on my stomach I knew you were special.  My heart snapped a shot of you laying there and I will never forget it.  My heart grew three sizes that day and it continues to grow a little bit everyday of your life.

I hope when you are older you can read this letter and understand how completely amazing you are.  I hope you are able to look back and understand how hard you have worked from the beginning.   When Dr. Kanne told me you had autism I knew instantly it wasn't going to stop you.  I knew no matter what you would be fine.  You have always been fine, your dad and I are the ones who worry.

We have had nine fabulous years and here are nine things you have taught us:

1.   Sometimes things need order.  It is best when life if predicted and planned.  In reality this helps all of us.  It is okay that you like your world to be this way.  Thanks for giving me a reason to FINALLY get organized!

2.  Silence is comforting.   Sometimes it is okay and completely fabulous to take a moment and be completely wrapped up in yourself. 

3. It is okay to like what you like even if others think it is weird.  Be who you are and let your freak flag fly!.   I will ALWAYS love this about you.

4.  "The force" does exist.  Sometimes it is the strength we all need but can't find.  I'm so glad it will always be with you.  You believe it and we believe it too!

5.  Having "lots" of friends isn't necessary.  As long as you surround yourself with people who love you and understand where you are coming from it is comforting.  Approval of the masses isn't necessary.

6.  Red really is the best color.  I love it, you love it, and being BOLD is completely awesome and brave. 

7.   The ability to be completely accepting of others is a gift.  I see you at Special Olympics and Challenger Baseball and I will forever admire your ability to see a person not a disability.

8. The ability to see what you want to see.  The ability to take a moment to view life from a positive perspective.  There are no inhibitions.  There are no concerns about the judgement of others.

9.  Unconditional love is the most amazing gift of all.

Thank you for loving us and opening your life to us in a way that is not always comfortable for you.  We love you and we will never doubt how much you uniquely love all of us.

Happy 9th Birthday Rye!


  1. This is beautiful, Tara! He is a special boy, with very special parents! You are blessed to have each other! I think we all have an inner "freak flag" waving :-) HaPpy BiRtHdAY !!!!

    Norma & Jayden

    1. thanks Norma! Let it fly lady, let it fly!!

  2. what a wonder-filled and heart felt letter to an amazing soul - many birthday blessings to you, Rye! Thanks for all you give to me!

    1. Thanks Leanna and thanks so much for all you do for us!!!