Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Happy Birthday Wyatt!

Dear Wyatt,

I am writing this while you are fast asleep.  I hope you are dreaming of the presents and party to come over the next few days. I am also writing to tell you that I hope you read this when you are older, at a moment when you feel resentful or cheated or just fed up with the whole thing that is your life as the only sibling of a child who has autism.

I want you to know that up to this point at least, I have tried my best. I promise to keep trying my best and to give the job of being your mom my full attention. I admittedly don't always do that but I pledge to do better. I never want you to feel cheated or fed up but I know you do.  I also want you to know that you are right. You are cheated, you should be fed up, just know that mom and dad understand and we love you more than you will ever know.

You probably won't remember this but a few months ago we were talking after you handed out blue light bulbs to the neighbors for autism awareness.  I said "Wyatt you do know that we are so happy that you don't have autism don't you?"  You said "no" and my heart skipped several beats. You were six but aware enough to know that maybe sometimes mom and dad unknowingly highlight our situation because on some level it makes us feel better. I'm so sorry you ever felt that way.  Please know that since that day I have tried to be cautious in involving you in autism related events that you don't want to be a part of or because of your age or that you don't understand.

The amazing thing is that since that time, when asked, you always want to be there, you are always willing to help and you don't complain.  I know this may change and if it does always know that we understand and appreciate you, love you and support you know matter what.

I love you Wyatt.

Tonight you turn seven. At the stroke of midnight exactly you turn seven. Born at midnight on a full moon in the middle of a Colorado blizzard.  I think that was a collection of craziness that was the beginning and preparation for the chaos that is your life.

You are one cool kid and for your seventh birthday I want to tell you seven things I love about you.

1.  I love that you never stop talking even when you are asleep.  I guess I have that coming!

2.  I love that you always want to be the life of the party and find a way to involve yourself in the most interesting thing going on in the room.

3.  I love that you are one of the most helpful people that I know. You are always willing to lend a hand no matter what.

4.  I love that you don't have the attention problems that make me a disaster.  I love that we can be pulling out of the driveway and when I sigh you say "Mom what did you forget? your phone or your lunch?"  I appreciate your gift of remembering on many levels.

5.  You are an amazing brother.  You love Rye and cried when I threatened to finally put you in separate rooms.  You melt my heart when you engage him in something by being clever or when you explain something to him in a way that he understands because you know how he thinks better than anybody.

6.  I love that you are competitive in every bone of your body. I love that you want to win and give everything your all in order to do so. Some people won't like this about you but I think it is one of your greatest strengths.  There is nothing wrong with the desire to win as long as you learn to lose graciously.

7.  I love that you love your family so much and that you constantly remind us how important it is to spend time together. I can't tell you how much it warms my heart when I ask you what you want to do and you say whatever it is and follow it up with, "together the whole family."

Wyatt I love you for all the things you bring to our family and I'm so excited to be a part of your journey.  Happy Birthday!  We love you!


  1. An awesome birthday wish, to an awesome child from two awesome parents! Wyatt has no idea how blessed he really is. Gods blessings to all.


  2. Thanks so much Nancy and thanks for always reading and supporting our blog! We hope to get back to writing regular posts after the first of the year.